I was raised in a tangle of double-binds. One of them was a set of conflicting messages about work, and value, and freedom. On one side I was told at every opportunity that I was special, that I had high potential, and many qualities and abilities; I could do anything. On the other, I was shown that unless I subsumed my independence and bent to my parent's will for me to follow them in some silly mini-dynasty by continuing their business; I would be worthless and a heartless ingrate; even though I was never given any real training in how to do what was expected of me and it was something that I could tell from a young age was destroying them.
Double Binds
Double Binds
Double Binds
I was raised in a tangle of double-binds. One of them was a set of conflicting messages about work, and value, and freedom. On one side I was told at every opportunity that I was special, that I had high potential, and many qualities and abilities; I could do anything. On the other, I was shown that unless I subsumed my independence and bent to my parent's will for me to follow them in some silly mini-dynasty by continuing their business; I would be worthless and a heartless ingrate; even though I was never given any real training in how to do what was expected of me and it was something that I could tell from a young age was destroying them.